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Human
Relations MGMT611
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Lesson
15
SELF-ESTEEM
Love
thyself and self-esteem
"Love
thy neighbors" is one of the world's
best-known human relations principles. Yet
most people forget
that
the phrase ends as you those
last two words are the
foundation for accomplishing the
first three. When
you
maintain your self-esteem, you feel
confident and free to
express yourself without being
overly
concerned
with others' reactions; you
work to fulfill your needs
for achievement, strength,
recognition,
independence
and appreciation -- to reach your
greatest potential. If you maintain
low self-esteem, you
are
plagued
by doubts and anxieties that
limit your ability to
achieve success.
Self-esteem
Self-esteem:
"Appreciating my own worth
and importance and having the character
to be accountable for
myself
and to act responsibly
towards others." Self-esteem
can be thought of as the sum of
self-confidence
and
self-respect." There is no value judgment
more important to man -- no
matter more decisive in
the
psychological
development and motivation -- than the
estimate he passed on
himself."
Measure
of self-esteem
Your
measure of self-esteem is always a
matter of degree. Your
self-esteem reflects what you
think and feel
about
yourself, not what someone else
thinks or feels about you,
even though you are
always reevaluating
yourself
in light of others' comments about
your behavior. Self esteem
includes the personality traits
you
believe
you have, such as honesty,
creativity, assertiveness, flexibility,
and many more. Genuine
self-esteem
is
not expressed by self-
glorification at the expense of others or
by the attempt to diminish others so as
to
elevate
you.
Building
process of self-esteem
"A
child's life is a piece of paper on
which every passer-by leaves
a mark. Parents do not teach
their
children
self-esteem. But they do shape it
with positive and negative
messages.
·
Bad
boy! Bad girl!
You
are great!
·
You're
so lazy!
You
can do anything!
·
You'll
never learn.
You're
a fast learner!
·
What's
wrong with you?
Next
time you'll do better.
·
Why
can't you be more
like..?
I
like you just the way
you are.
·
It's
your entire fault.
I
know you did your
best.
Childhood
and self-esteem
Parental
discipline is one way of telling
children that parents care
about them and what they do.
When
someone
cares about you, you tend to
think more positively about yourself.
The self-esteem formed
in
childhood
lays the foundation of your
attitudes toward work, your
future success, your
personal abilities,
and
the roles you play.
Media
and self-esteem
The
media play a strong part in how
adolescents see themselves. The
beautiful people featured on TV
and
movies
lead adolescents to use
these unrealistic images to
measure their own attributes
and lifestyles. It is
easy
to feel deficient in comparison. Instead of
seeing who you really are,
you see who you
are not and
continually
reinforce that negative image
with your own inner
thoughts, often referred to as self-talk.
Formative
years of self-esteem
·
The
ages of twelve and eighteen
are among the most crucial
in developing and consolidating
your
feelings
about yourself. During these years,
you are moving away
from the close bond
between
parent
and child; and are
attempting to establish ideals of
independence and
achievement
·
You
must also deal with
physical changes; relationships with
peer groups; an emerging,
often
confusing
identity; and the loss of
childhood and the assumption of
some adult
responsibilities.
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·
Is it
any wonder that your
self-esteem seemed to change
not only day by day
but also hour by
hour?
Self-esteem
and public image
·
"First-rate
people hire first-rate people. Second-
rate people hire third-rate
people." Individuals
with
secure self-esteem realize
that in helping others
succeed, they benefit themselves as
well.
·
Acceptance
of others is a good indication
that you accept
yourself.
·
"People
take you at the value you
put on yourself. If you believe in
your own power, other
people
will
believe you and treat you
with the respect you've
provided for
yourself."
Hope
and self-esteem
·
Improving
the person's physical image
seemed to create an entirely
new individual.
·
In the
legend, the king longs for
an ideal wife. Because no
mortal woman meets his
expectations, he
fashions
a statue of his ideal woman
out of ivory and eventually
falls in love with his
creation. His
desire
to make the statue his wife
is so intense that his
belief brings it to life.
·
"When
a doctor can instill some
measure of hope, the healing process
sometimes starts even
before
treatment
begins."
Mentoring
Mentors
are peopling who have
been where you want to go in
your career and who
are willing to act as
your
guide
and friend. They take you
under your wings and show
you how to get to the next
step in your career.
They
act as sponsors, teachers,
supervisors, and
coaches.
Conclusions
·
Self-esteem
is just like a driver of a
car or a captain of a ship. It
can take you to a
glorious
destination
or it can destroy any one's
future. Self-esteem is a sum
total of self-confidence and
self-
respect.
·
Self-confidence
is a product of gaining and using
knowledge to do things. If you do most of
the
things
successfully, you gain confidence
and as a result, the self-worth of
yours increases.
Activity:
Thinking and learning about
yourself
1.
Can
you recall two or three
people from your childhood or
adolescence who had a
positive effect
on
your self-esteem? What did
these people say or do? Were
there any who had a
negative effect on
you?
What did they say or
do?
2.
Identify
at least two people who you
feel exhibit the characteristics of people
with high
self-esteem.
Explain
what behaviors helped you identify
them.
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